The Art of Creating a Ritual for What Matters Most


“Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.” ~Joseph Campbell

The Elements of Ritual

So what would a ritual contain? It’s an art, so you can make it however you like. However, some elements to consider:
  • Create your environment: A ritual might have an altar, a temple, incense, etc. But your ritual doesn’t have to have these particular elements — the important thing is to consider what environment you’d like for this ritual, and how that environment will affect the practice. By taking care to create the environment, there’s an element of mindfulness and intention that is missing from most of our actions. An example might be to have flowers and music and sage as you do your yoga practice, or to eat dinner with phones off, a candle burning, and silence in the room.
  • Intention: As you start, set an intention for the ritual. What would you like to practice during this ritual? How do you want to show up? Set the intention, and then carry that intention throughout the ritual.
  • Bring presence: A key part of ritual is to be as fully present as you can. This is another element missing from most of our daily actions, but if we elevate something to ritual, it can increase our presence.
  • Deep appreciation: Ritual is about bringing full appreciation to the act. A daily shower ritual is appreciating your body for the miracle it is. Daily eating rituals is appreciating not only the nourishing food, but the people who put their life energy into growing, transporting and preparing the food. A daily writing ritual might be an appreciation of your connection to your reader. We often take things for granted — ritual brings the appreciation for life, the world, others and ourselves back into our lives.
  • Contemplation: Ritual can be a space for contemplating what’s important to you, what you are afraid of, what your aspirations are, and more. Again, this isn’t something we normally make space for, but what if we created that space?
  • Connection to aspiration: What do you want to create in the world? Who do you want to be? How would you like to show up, to shift yourself, to serve others? Ritual is a way to connect to these aspirations, so that we can be more resolved to live them.
  • Lift to sacredness: We take the ordinary things in our lives for granted, but what if we lifted the ordinary to sacredness? This doesn’t require a belief in The Most High (though it can) … it’s imbuing a power into an action. The word “sacred” comes from  the Latin “sacrฤre,” which means to consecrate, to dedicate. That usually has holy connotations but can simply mean to be devoted to something that has power. What if we could see the mundane as powerfully sacred and magical?
  • Close in gratitude: A ritual has a closing, which might be simply gratitude for whatever you just did, how you practiced, or what you are devoted to. Give a small prayer of thanks to yourself, to the world.

Rituals to Consider

Any act that you do each day, that’s important to you, can be considered for something to turn into a ritual.
For example, some that I’ve been experimenting with:
  • Start of your day: How would you like to start your day? Can it be with intention, gratitude, reflection? With aspiration and appreciation? With meditation and quiet?
  • Getting ready: When you get yourself ready for the day, will it be a rushed affair, or one of slowing down, appreciating your body, taking care of yourself, loving yourself?
  • Writing or other work: Whether your work be writing or phone calls or building a house … you can elevate that to ritual by creating intention around it, appreciating what you’re creating, pouring yourself into the act, bringing mindfulness to it. How can you elevate it to ritual?
  • Email & messages: We normally just dive into checking email and messages, but what if it became a sacred ritual of connecting to others, of carefully considering issues, of crafting language? Can we elevate the act to one of deep presence and appreciation?
  • Eating: With eating, we can simply fuel our bodies and put food down our throats, phones or TVs distracting us … or we can elevate the eating to an act of nourishing and loving our bodies, connecting to others and the earth that has provided for us, connecting to loved ones’ hearts.
  • Exercise: We can rush through exercise, just trying to get it over with. Or we can bring it to the realm of the divine, letting it be an act of love for our bodies, an act of connection to our environment, an act of full presence and highest purpose.
  • Yoga: Is it just exercise and stretching, or can it be a ritual of full devotion and surrender, of practice of our highest selves?
  • Meditation: We can sit there, waiting for the final meditation bell to ring, or we can let it be a ritual of practice for what we’d like to train in. Or simply a ritual of full appreciation for the moment.
  • Sleep: Is sleep a matter of being on devices until we’re so tired we can’t check another thing on social media? Or a time when we reflect on our day, prepare for our time of rest, slow down and appreciate our lives?
I have to confess that I have not perfected the art of creating ritual for all of these things — I’m still learning, still experimenting. I have a lot of growth to do here. But when I do it, I’ve found it absolutely profound.

Elevating What Matters Most to You

What is important to you? If it’s in your life, you must care enough about it that you’ve included it. Our hours are precious and limited, and we can take care to only place the things that matter most into that limited space.
So what you’ve included in your life must matter tremendously. Why not craft a ritual for this thing that matters so much?
If you care about checking social media, messages, email, news, blogs — why not make this act into ritual?
If you care about your relationship with someone, why not create a connection ritual where you fully connect with them?
If you care about reading, why not make a reading ritual?
If you care about your meaningful work, why not create a ritual for practicing with that work?
I invite you to create ritual around the deeper practice of your meaningful work with my latest creation.

Clear Distractions and Finding Balance


When it comes to the minimalism of doing, distractions are the biggest obstacle.
We must first identify what’s most important to us, what we’re passionate about, what we want to spend our time on. And then we must focus on those things first.
But the distractions. They get in the way of this focusing, no?
Without distractions, you’ll be able to focus. You’ll find peace. You’ll find time for doing what you love.  Note 2 Self: Our expectations of others often cause our own struggles and frustrations.
Here’s how:
  • Cut back your social networking to network (or two at the most) – including Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, forums, etc. These are hugely distracting when trying to reset yourself.
  • Cut back on your social networking “friends”. Stick to your actual friends and colleagues. Networking with thousands of people you don’t know is superficial and distracting..
  • Do less email. Start by sending less. Check email less often. Use the phone or face-to-face conversations when possible.
  • Shut down the Internet to work. Disconnect, and work without distractions.
  • Separate consuming from creating. Reading and networking and emailing are different from actually creating. Do them at separate times.
  • Set a limited reading time. If you read a lot on the web, or RSS feeds, set limits and do it at specified times.
  • Shut off notifications. 
  • Clear away icons on your desktop. File them all in one folder, and use an app launcher.
  • Clear your actual desk.
  • Use music to block out your surroundings.
  • Get away from the computer, spend time with actual people.
  • Shut off the smart phone. Seriously.
  • Focus on the most important tasks first, before you get distracted.
  • Set limits on your work hours. If your time is limited, you’ll find ways to make the most of that limited time.
  • Go for a walk, do yoga or meditation
  • Declutter your life
  • Get rid of toxic people 
Small is beautiful. Aim for smaller when it makes sense, and enjoy the wonder that ensues.

minimalist

[ min-uh-muh-list ]

noun

a person who favors a moderate approach to the achievement of a set of goals or who holds minimal expectations for the success of a program.

The Practice of Using December for Retreat, Reflection & Letting Go


December can be a cold and dark month for many people, a time of lowered energy while still being very busy. For that reason, I find that’s an amazing time for:

·                                 Retreat: Take a little time out of my busy year for a little quiet solitude and turn inward, creating space for silence, contemplation, and mindfulness.

·                                 Reflection: This quiet time is a time to reflect on how the year has gone, and how I’d like to move into the New Year. We don’t often give ourselves enough time for reflection, as we’re always busy with activities.

·                                 Letting go: What have we become burdened with over the past year? Over the past decade? This time of turning inward is also a great time to let go of burdens, resentments, etc.

It’s a season for retreat and reflection, for me. Let’s talk about how that can look.

Creating Space for Retreat


Imagine that you were to sign up for a retreat this month … you put aside your daily life, all your busy work, all your projects and errands, and emails and messages … and you travel to another place. In this place, you remove yourself from the busy world and find space for quiet. For reflection. For contemplation, setting intentions, and reviewing how things have gone. For gratitude and appreciation for life. You might meditate, relax, read, or journal. You might take a walk in nature, or find solitude. You might just mindfully enjoy the space. You can do all of this without traveling, right where you are. It takes intention and taking action to create the space.


1                         Intention: You simply have to create the intention to create space for retreat. It’s as simple as saying, “I am going to create some space for reflection, mindfulness, gratitude, intention and letting go this month.” It’s the same as when you create the intention to sign up for a retreat, but instead of paying someone else to create the space for you … you do it yourself. Set the intention, even write it down.

2                          Create the space: This takes a little more work, but it’s absolutely doable. When can you create space for a retreat? Can you carve out 30-60 minutes a day? A couple hours? Can you take every Saturday off for this month? Or a full three days this weekend, or a full five days? It’s a matter of blocking off the time in your calendar, and then getting things done so that you can have that space — clearing out urgent messages and tasks, rescheduling appointments, and talking to people in your life so that you can have this space. It might mean renegotiating deadlines or project timelines. If you were going to travel to a retreat, you’d do all of this — this will just cost you less.

Now, you can actually go to a different place during your retreat — take a walk in a park or forest, or rent a hotel room in your city. Or you can do it at home if you can resist distractions. But the key thing is not to get caught up in your usual tasks and routines. Retreat from life, so that you can contemplate and reflect. Find solitude. Practice gratitude and mindfulness. Use a paper notebook and practice journaling.

Using This Time for Reflection


So you have a little space — maybe 30-60 minutes a day, maybe a day or two a week, maybe more. This space can be considered sacred. It’s devotional time, where you can devote yourself completely to:

·                                 Reflecting on your past year — how has it gone? What went well? What did you struggle with? What can you learn from all of that?

·                                 Reflecting on what you’re grateful for, and what you’d like to appreciate more of in your life.

·                                 Reflecting on what you might be holding onto — grudges, frustrations, resentments, emotional baggage, attachment — that you can let go of (more in the next section).

·                                 Contemplating what’s most meaningful to you in your life.

·                                 Contemplating what kind of meaningful work or purpose you’d like to pursue, or how to better pursue that.

·                                 Contemplating what you’d like to put your focus on.

·                                 Being mindful of each moment, and allowing yourself to appreciate the moment in silence.

You don’t have to do all of these, but you can consider which feels right to you. The idea is to use this sacred time for reflection, gratitude, mindfulness, contemplation, and solitude. Let this time in solitude be replenishing. Let it heal you. Let it be a beautiful time in your life.

Living For Everyone Else.....


A lot of people don’t do minimalism because it doesn’t seem realistic for their lives. But what they often mean is that they don’t want others to think they’re weird.
Wearing the same clothes every day might seem weird to your friends and co-workers. Having no car might make you seem like an oddball. Not having a smartphone might make you uncool. Living in a small home or an RV might make everyone think you’re poor or crazy. 
But who  are we living for?
I am all for living to help other people, but when we live our lives to the expectations of other people; we end up living lives we don’t want. And what do we get when we live up to the expectations of all these other people? They really don’t care — they just don’t like things different because they are uncomfortable with change. Staying the same as everyone else doesn’t make everyone else happier — it just doesn’t force them to reflect on their lives.
Where do these expectations come from, anyway? Other people didn’t just make them up — they are customs built up over the years, often very consciously by corporations trying to get us into expensive buying habits
For example, we have so many clothes, gadgets and other possessions because ads have sold us on the idea that we need clothing to look stylish, to be successful, to feel like we are above ourselves or as good as the people we idolize and worship.
Now don’t get me wrong I like nice things too and I am I’m not saying we should go live in the woods and ignore society (though that’s not a bad option). People don’t go wild with anger when they hear that I don’t celebrate holidays but I might get a raised eyebrow when they find out I dance to the beat of my own drum and I enjoy listening to the wind whisper and the flow of progress. Here what I have learned over the years is hurt people, hurt people and you don't need everyone to like or even love you. 
I have learned that  you have to learn to block out the noises of the drama and negativity and focus on taking deep breath, reset, reshift and restart again and go on with your life. 
Go against the stream — the other fish don’t know where they’re going either!
When it comes to others, be helpful, compassionate, and establish your boundaries. But don’t live up to their expectations. You’ll be freed of the shackles of meaningless customs, so that you can live as you want one day at a time.....

10 Questions with Sims Strategic Mentoring Program Founder Walter Sims

Tell Us About Yourself: Walter Sims CEO and Founder of Sims Strategic Mentoring Program. I founded the program out of a desired compassion to empower unfortunate youth. It formed from me and a few other adults getting a group of young kids to question neighbors on how they can improve the community. Youth were evaluated on their approach and behavior in the matter, and then rewarded for their participation and effort. 
The program then took the initiative to implement such improvements. We served the community in feeding the homeless and doing Christmas dinners and gift giveaways.

What are your favorite’s quotes?
I owe God everything; Mindset is everything, Empowering minds to embrace kindness 

Can you tell us a little bit about your business or the work you do?
Youth and their family members are referred to Sims Strategic Mentoring, upon enrolling, an evaluation will occur to better understand referrals needs in developing properly. Then thorough background checked and trained mentors are assigned to assist referrals needs. The program also works with other non-profit organizations through inspirational speaking, community involvement and social development. 

What brings you the greatest joy?
Knowing and seeing that someone has taken what has been giving through me to empower themselves to be a change. 

What is the best advice you've been given?
 Be the change you want to see in the world. 

What accomplishment are you most proud of?
 Forgiving myself of what am unable to change. 

What are the two things people would be surprised to know about you?
 Where I came from and how I was able to overcome so much riding against my present and future. 
What is one thing you wish you knew when you were younger?
 That time is very precious to an unlearn mind. 

Do you help the community?
 Yes! I currently build and distribute supplies to not so fortunate neighborhoods. 

If you could talk to three people, who would they be and why?
 My Father God- To praise him,
My Dad and Grandmother -To ask unanswered questions. 

Do you have any advice you would like to leave with the reader?
Stop!!!! Obsessing over what you are trying to do and be and allow your path to form as you prepare to step into it. May God guide you. 

For More Information contact Walter Sims 
(501) 541-9178  
Location: North Little Rock area
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