Junk food sex: interactions of a sexual
nature that are not good for your physical or emotional well being. It is in
high supply—in fact it is everywhere—and therefore is convenient and easily
accessible. Although that may sound appealing, and the sex may be enjoyable, it
is of little or no real value and leaves you feeling emotionally malnourished.
It is immediately satisfying but leaves you longing for intimacy and
connection.
This post is intends
to help you determine the quality of the relationships you are consuming. It
challenges you to purge the junk and feed your needs with nutritious
relationships.
Research
actually shows us that those who engage in sexual relations within 30 days of
dating have roughly a 25% chance of being together a year later. Those odds
increase if you wait past 30 days, and improve significantly if you can wait
60-90 days.
This means that the longer you can wait,
the better the probability of building a lasting relationship. We often engage
in premature sex in relationships because it gives us a false sense of security
in this high anxiety time, but consuming junk food sex actually prevents you
from being able to find the secure and lasting relationship you are looking
for.
Premature sex clouds your judgment and keeps
you from rationally assessing the situation. Therefore, if you can control your
desire for junk food sex, you have a better chance and being able to get your
emotional and relationship needs met.
Recap, junk food sex is:
- Not
good for your physical or emotional well being
- Is in
high supply—it’s everywhere, which makes it convenient.
- Is
appealing or enjoyable but of little or no real value
- Immediately
satisfying but in the long-term leaves you feeling malnourished
- Because
your needs for connection and intimacy are not being met
Original Article By: Djossa, E. (n.d.). From: The Love
Reset « The Love Compass
Erica Djossa is the founder of The Love Compass and a psychotherapist
who specializes in relationships.
If you have any questions or inquiries please
email Erica (at) the-love-compass (dot) com.
