Attitude is everything. Mental attitude, no matter what the
end goal is, either helps you get there or impedes your progress and one of the
most damaging attitudes anyone can adopt is victim-mentality.Carolyn Hansen
What is victim-mentality?
Victim mentality is a negative mindset. It places blame on
other people and circumstances for any unhappiness felt within." It is the
proverbial "point the finger out" scenario.
Those engaged in victim-mentality, view life through a
narrow lens of pessimistic perceptions, believing whatever occurs in life is
the result of outside causes. Inner reflection is never considered. Being a
victim means absolving themselves of blame. Nothing is their fault - ever!
Those engaged in victim mentality most often enjoy the attention, sympathy, and
validation they get from playing this "poor me" role.
When trapped in victim-hood, the focus becomes how
vulnerable we are, rather than on how powerful we are.
While no one is born with victim mentality, no one is
exempt from playing the victim role either. Sweet elder grandparents, loving,
well-intentioned mothers and fathers, teenagers, and even those considered
"spiritually awakened" can all be found to dwell in this defeatist
realm.
In fact, every person alive has played the victim role more than once in their
lives.
Victims want to be mentally prepared for the worst and sadly, for those
dwelling in victim-hood, this self-sabotaging behavior becomes more powerful
when things seem to be going their way as they are sure "disaster is
waiting around the next corner."
So, how does one break free from this self-defeating,
"poor me," pessimistic type programming, most of which was developed
and adopted as a child?
It all begins at home with your perceptions/how your view
yourself. Do you perceive yourself as a survivor or a victim?
Survivors embrace life and flow with it. They live in the present and take
control over their lives. They are fully aware that they alone are responsible
for what occurs. They know that taking responsibility for their lives, they are
empowered to change their lives.
Victims, on the other hand, wallow in self-pity and argue with and push back at
life. They dwell in the past, believing they are helpless to change
circumstances - their key to avoiding responsibility. They live defensively and
stay frozen in time, without making progress because their perceptions tell
them they are powerless.
The cost of victim mentality is high. It negatively affects
every area of life - professional and personal. Those who see themselves as a
failure, are dwelling in victim-hood because failure only comes to those who
give up.
If we really want to shift out of victim mentality, we must
first own it. We can't change what we don't own. We must shift our
attitude and know that "change begins with me." We must embrace
survival and take actions steps... no matter how small or insignificant they
may seem now, towards some goal we are looking to attain.
Most importantly, we must continually empower ourselves with
"I can" and "I will" statements and put a stop to degrading
"I can't" or "I won't" statements and beliefs.
And, we must embrace gratitude - the greatest of attitudes. Daily,
we need to take time to reflect on all the things that make us happy, on all
the things that are going well in our life. Keeping our mind/energy focused on
positive situations helps to counteract victim mentality.
In the end, we must honor ourselves with the same degree of respect and love that we try to give others. Only then will our minds and actions shift out of victim-hood to survival mode.
The truth is, we can't control other's actions or every
circumstance that shows up in our lives, but we can control how we react to
them. We don't have to be victims. It is a choice. Whatever happens or comes
our way, we must view it as a challenge and not an excuse.
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The victim needs to realize that small behavior and attitude changes can result
in big rewards.
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Carolyn Hansen is a certified fitness expert and fitness center owner who in her nearly 30 years of fitness and bodybuilding competition experience she has helped thousands of people start their journey towards losing weight, becoming strong, fit, and youthful at any age.
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